Reasons.........

Reasons.............Does everything happen for a reason??? Is everything that happens to us, that affects us, that we experience good or bad for a reason?

Someone very dear to me seems to contemplate everything in life.....wonders and tries to figure out what is the "reason" this happened or that is happening to that person...why? what did they do or how do they seem to attract these situations to them? There has to be a reason.... so what is it??

I, myself wonder why does this person try so hard to figure the "reason" for this? Why is this person spending their precious personal time thinking of a reason as to why things happen?? Couldn't it just be that life happens the way it happens because it just does?!

Oprah has gone round and round trying to figure out why her weight fluctuates so much...first she did the fasting (which I did)...then it was all about exercise with her new instructor..then it was certain ingredients that was doing it....then it was deeper and until she worked on herself she just wouldn't get there.....now a book comes out and she says this book changed her life and now she is figuring out why she gets the urge to eat or binge when she does...usually after a discussion with someone, a comment someone made that brings her back to a moment in time in her life where someone did something bad, hurt her feelings, scared her....and that is the new reason her weight is where it is at....

Okay, well, I'm so busy now a days I don't have time to watch afternoon T.V. my dear loved one is always telling me to record the shows...well, honestly I don't have enough time in a day and by the evening there's just no time left.
One day I happened to have a quiet afternoon...just in time to watch the talk show and it just happened to be the one on this book.
Well, now I can see why my dear loved one is always looking for "reasons". Why am I over weight? What happened in my child hood or what did my loved one do wrong or didn't see happening to me to lead me to the weight I'm at now? Hmmm, there has to be a "reason"....

Could it just be that I don't pay enough attention to myself to exercise, to make sure I eat right as I do for my kids, that I just don't take time out of my day and dedicate it just to myself???

Why is this person in our family going through all these really serious situations that directly affects their life in a huge way!? What is the reason? Why do they attract this to themselves? My dear loved one wonders and tries to figure it out....

Truth is I believe there just simply doesn't have to be a "reason" for everything that happens to us....sure if our milk is spoiled the "reason" is because we left it out, if there is no bread the "reason" is because we forgot to buy some at the store.
If my child should decides to skip school and hang out with their friends and then get caught in the process, who's fault is that...what is the "reason" that MY child did such an unacceptable act? Is it something that I did in my past or something I forgot to teach them that led them to do this? Or is it just something that happened because of my child's own choice?

Maybe sometimes certain situations hang around us because we allow them to hang around us...we might not intentionally invite some of them and others just might fall in our lap and we might think we can handle it all because we've been taught to be the protector, the provider, the comforter....sooner or later we need to show ourselves and just simply let go of what we can't fix, what we have no power over, what is really not our problem.

Life does throw us curve balls and boy, some of them are pretty crazy....do we deserve all that occurs...no. Is there always a "reason" it is happening to us? mmm, well, who knows? Should we spend our time trying to figure out the "reason"? I would say no. Trying to figure out reasons as to why this is happening to us is taking time away from us moving on....letting go and releasing it. We need to work on whatever issue is at hand in our lives and not worry why we have it. We need to stop looking to the past to figure out our present. What has happened in the past is done, no reason to re-live it, we can't take it back, it's not going to change what is going on now.

Good or bad, we have all learned things from our past, it makes us who we are now, it helps us to deal with situations that we otherwise might not have the strength, the patience, the love to deal with. And that is the REASON we continue to work through all that is going in our lives.

The days keep coming as do the nights and they aren't going to stop and wait for us to figure out how to handle the following day or why we couldn't get it right the night before.

Let the reasons go and focus on the now...smile today for who knows what tomorrow will give us?! Right?!

Just a Mom.............tired of trying to figure out all the "reasons".....