If we can try our hardest to guide them in the right direction we will have accomplished our job as parents, the rest lays in their hands to ultimately make the right choice.
I'm reminded quite often to really try and enjoy this stage with my children because they are at the age of transition. They are going to soon leave behind the make believe age and move on to the next stage in their adolescent life. What that is I am happy to say I'm not exactly sure yet as I haven't noticed it from any of my children.
Yes, Mom Jr. is going through a few changes but it's not anything drastic. Am I ready for the next stage? Mmm, I think so. Would it make me sad? Definitely! Do I think a little girl going through changes with her body will make her mentally change? Yes, and yes that also makes me sad. I like passing by her room and seeing her playing with her barbies. I like that she has dolls sitting in the corner of her room. At the same time she is interested in the tween things. She now has a poster of her favorite Twilight Series hanging above her bed. My little girls princess room that her Daddy and I spent a three day weekend painting as a surprise for her is also starting to show changes. She is always one step behind us. I was reading her blog and the more I do, the more I think it was a good thing for her and us. She is starting to slowly open up more about her personally. Her latest she talks about her favorite music and her liking to sing. At first I was a little surprised to read some of the names of her favorite songs. I did ask her about them and she said "Mom that's just the name of the songs, I really like the music". Now, I think back to when I was her age and some of the songs I listened to like Prince. If you know his music it has a great beat, I would even sing along. Did I at that age think about the words and what they meant? No. I loved and still do love his music. Of course, I now get it but at the time that wasn't my concern.
I thought about that and then said "It's okay, I know you aren't going to repeat words you aren't suppose to say and you are really enjoying the music".
Mom Jr. being a dancer listens to all types, if the least of my worries happens to be a song that doesn't necessarily have a bad word in it (just in our household it is not allowed to be said) but has some not good choices for our family, it's okay because I have enough faith in my daughter to know what is right.
One thing I know for sure is to be completely open and honest with our children. My Mom was (and still is) always open to discuss anything with us. We knew we would never have to hide anything from her because she made us feel comfortable enough to tell her anything. I also think for that reason I was never in a hurry to be intimate with anyone or experiment with things I shouldn't be.
I know how that made me feel to know that my Mom trusted me enough to allow me to have the freedom to choose what I listened to, who I hung out with, what I wore, and of course how I did my hairstyle (I totally had the 80's hair). Because of this, I was in no hurry to drastically change, go out and do something I was not ready to. I was fine being exactly who I was.
In the same fashion, as I watch my children grow and change I am making an honest effort to allow them to choose the hair style they want, the clothes they feel comfortable in, the music they choose to listen to....
I am embracing their differences between each other, their uniqueness, and so far I have nothing to complain about. I am hoping they too will follow along the same path and know there is no hurry in growing up....
Just a Mom noticing the little changes of her babies......growing up
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